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Important Tips for First Time Moms !

1. Prepare Your Mind

Your Whole Life Will Change

So let me put it to you straight. Whether you planned your pregnancy or it “just happened”, being a Mom will change your life. Your entire life. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, just as you’re hearing it from me now. You probably won’t totally understand it until you’re holding your child in your arms and have taken care of him or her for the first few weeks.

Still, I’ll try to explain. Your life without children is free and your responsibilities are based on what you need and what needs to be done to maintain your life and needs. When you bring a child into your life, you still need to take care of yourself, yes. But your main priority is making sure your child has everything he or she needs and is safe. For example, in your life without a child, if you have some extra money or want to do something special for yourself you may go get your nails or hair done. With a child, there may not be extra money. Or if there is, you’ll probably spend it on your little one instead of yourself. A mom usually does (and should) think about what her child needs before herself. You will start thinking this way when your child is born, but you should start rearranging the way you think now so it will be an easier transition.

Think About Who You Allow In Your Life

Not only should you start to think differently about financial priorities, but about who you allow in your life, and now your child’s life. Childless, you have only yourself to think about when choosing what relationships you allow in your life. When I say relationships, I mean romantic and otherwise. If you’re single and pregnant, now is not the time to start a new romantic relationship. Now is the time to focus on being ready for your child. If you’re already in a relationship with the baby’s father (your boyfriend or husband), make sure that you have open communication with him about how you’re going to parent your child together. Also, fix any problems you have in your relationship because your relationship problems will affect your child’s life. If you have any friends or family who you know aren’t good for you or are negative about the baby, keep them at a distance or let them know that you don’t want any negativity in your life and around your child. Any close unhealthy relationships in your life can affect your child by causing him or her stress and can even delay development.

2. Take Care Of Your Body

Take Care Of Yourself

Pregnancy takes your body through a lot. If you’re planning to get pregnant, start getting your body in the best shape possible now. If you’re already pregnant, you’ll be limited in what exercises you can do, but still take care of yourself and do what you can do. Definitely ask your doctor what’s safe. You want your body to be strong and prepared for the birth.

Exercise

Like I said, if you’re already pregnant, there will be limited exercises you can do. Especially if you’re a beginner exerciser. Moving your body and being fit will still be important. If you can do nothing else, walking is always a good option. Swimming is low impact and is good for pregnant women. It can be done at any stage of pregnancy. There are other options, but again, make sure you ask your doctor what’s safe for you. Especially if you have health risks. After giving birth, the time to wait to begin exercise again is usually six weeks. You’ll want to start doing safe exercises as soon as possible to get your body back into shape so that you can keep up with that little one! You may not have as much energy after delivery, and getting into an exercise routine will help your body get its strength back, as well as lose any extra baby weight. Of course, what you’re putting into your body is important too…

3. Change Your Priorities

Getting Into A Routine

You’re not number one anymore! This can take some getting used to. At the newborn stage of your child’s life, you may feel like you don’t even have time to take a shower some days. All of the appointments you need to keep, being up late hours of the night feeding, washing dirty baby clothes, preparing bottles, etc. Taking care of a newborn takes up most of your time. Getting into a routine will help you to stay sane as well as stay on track with everything that needs to be done. If you’re lucky enough to have someone to help you the first few weeks, good for you. Not everyone does, but that can definitely be an advantage. As you’re learning your baby, try to set the same time of day for washing and filling bottles, laundry, nap time and bed time.

Your New Obligations

Being that you have more to do on a daily basis, you may need to learn to say no and cut some things out of your life. Before you welcome your child into the world, it’s easier to fit fun activities such as date nights and time with friends into your schedule, but with a child, especially a newborn, it’s not so convenient. You’ll be staying home with your child a lot. Finding a babysitter isn’t always so easy. For the first few weeks, you should keep your baby home in order not to expose him or her to extra germs and sick people anyway. Also, there will probably be a lot of people who want to visit and see the new addition to your family. Let some of them know that you don’t want visitors for the time being. You’re just getting your family adjusted to having a new little one and don’t need extra company to entertain.

Remember To Stay Positive

So you’re giving your baby the majority of your time, and your body is healing at the same time. It’s easy to be stressed with everything going on. Keep it in your mind that your baby is a blessing and a positive addition to your life! Being a mother is not an easy job, but it’s rewarding and helps you see what’s most important in life.

4. Get Ready To Change Your Schedule

Get A Planner Or Calendar

To be successful and to make the most out of your time as a mom, you need to have a good schedule. I strongly suggest having a planner or calendar where you plan what you’re doing with your time and for taking notes. To make it fun, pick one that’s cute and fits your personality. Even go and get hilighters to mark the most important points. If you choose a calendar, hang it in a place where you’ll always see it. Write down every doctor appointment, mark down feeding times, family events you need to remember, even grocery lists and lists of household chores that need to be done. Your planner will be like a reference to keep track of your time.

Planning Ahead

Your schedule will be different if you’re working than if you’re a stay at home mom, but is important either way. Have a plan for your days from start to finish. Plan what time you’ll get up. Make sure it’s before you know your child will wake up so that you’ll have time to shower, get dressed and get your focus. You’ll have time to pray or meditate if that’s a part of your life, and write look over your schedule to see what you have planned for the day. Also, it will be so much easier for you to shower and get dressed by yourself than when your little one is already awake and demanding your attention. Getting up earlier may be forfeiting a little sleep, but your day will go so much better.

Your Diaper Bag

A really important part of preparing for your days will be your diaper bag. Leaving the house with your baby unprepared can be very inconvenient. Keeping the diaper bag ready with everything in it, kept in the same spot can make things go smoother when you’re getting ready to take baby out. Some essentials you’ll need to keep in there will be diapers, baby wipes, an extra change of clothes, prepared bottles, a toy to keep your little one busy, snacks for an older baby or toddler, and a cloth to wipe any spit up.

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