So you want to be a good mom? Don’t worry. You will be! You just need to know what to expect. This chapter is all about letting you know what you’re in for –and while it’s natural to be nervous about the whole thing, preparing for it will ensure that you and your baby will be healthy and happy.
First-time moms are in for a different kind of experience once a baby enters their life. It doesn’t even start after delivery–it starts once you see those two pink lines confirming that you have a life in your womb. You’ll experience a slew of emotions — a mixture of excitement, happiness, fear, and many others. It’s normal to be nervous. You’d even find yourself worrying a bit about pains during delivery. Aside from that, the imagination of a first-time mom usually goes into overdrive. You might find yourself thinking about the foreseeable future and worrying about whether you can give your baby a good life.
Emotions run high and you’ll tend to be extra sensitive during pregnancy, thanks to hormones, which is why you really need to understand your needs and how your body works, and the changes that will occur–from the subtle to the not-so-subtle. If you do that, first-time pregnancy and parenting will be manageable.
The joys of pregnancy and parenthood are overwhelming, but pregnancies also come with a need for a great deal of work, patience, love, support, and understanding. Here are some of the challenges, reminders, and pieces of advice that you should consider so you will enjoy this new stage of your life.
What To Expect When You’re Expecting
Conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and child rearing are no walk in the park. It’s easy to say you want to have a baby, but once the baby is there, you discover how hard reality bites. Here are some expectations you need to be ready for:
The Pains of Childcare
Childcare will definitely burn your energy especially the first few years, and more so, the first few months. You should be ready for sleep interruptions during the night. You will get exhausted during the day may not have enough energy to look after the baby at night. Once you’re back to work, you have that to worry about too. You might want to consider asking for a more flexible shift at work. If that isn’t possible, hire a nanny who can look after your child. It is going to be worth it. Nothing compares to the feeling of waking up and staying late just staring at the little angel.
Set Your Priorities
Establish a support system
You are going to be your child’s anchor but it doesn’t hurt to get support from other people, as well. Remember what they say about how it takes a village to raise a child. You don’t need a literal village to help you out–you can just ask friends or family not exactly for help but for support. Ask someone over for dinner so you and your child can get some socialization with people other than each other. Also, contrary to popular belief, you can actually endear yourself to someone by asking for help–especially if it’s something as easy as help with moving the couch. Even something as simple as calling your own parents to talk about how things are with your child is a good way to establish that support system.
Motherhood is going to take a lot of energy so staying fit is important. You should never forget to take care of yourself.
That way, you can take care of your child and their needs. Motherhood is a 24/7 job, and you can’t afford to get sick or fall to a serious condition because a tiny human being is now dependent on you. Still, you do need some time off to take care of your personal needs, which is why you’ll need a readjustment of priorities and a decent support system.
It’s challenging–but rewarding — to be a first-time mom. There will be ups and downs, but if you are determined to take on the challenge, you’ll find that it can be fun and exciting –even wondrous at times. Parenthood becomes even more meaningful once you start teaching your child the value of respect, love, and responsibility –and just how to be a good human being in general.